Entries categorized as ‘Relationships’
As the end of the year rapidly approaches many sophomores are preparing to say good-bye to Emory not just for the summer but for an entire semester after that. For many, the prospect of saying good-bye to roommates, friends, and boyfriends/girlfriends for the next 8 months may be stressful, traumatic, and tense. Additionally, there may be an element of anxiety and uncertainty about how relationships may change in this time span. What if my boyfriend goes abroad and meets another girl? What if my best friend leaves and forgets all about me? Or even, what if when I get back, everyone has moved on and forgotten about me? These fears are common but often a simple discussion is the best way to hash out what these next 8 months will mean and how you plan to stay connected with the people you love while you or they (or both) are abroad.
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Categories: Relationships · Stress · Uncategorized
We recieved this dilemma on our gmail account. Please keep them coming!
Q: My roommate’s boyfriend practically lives in our house and does his laundry and showers here. My roommates and I don’t know how to address the situation because it affects our water bill and we are all paying for it. What should we do?
Living off campus has its ups and downs. While you are free from the candle and microwave restrictions of the dorms, living with friends is not always easy. Dealing with an unplanned roommate, like a boyfriend or girlfriend of one of your roommates, is definitely among the most challenging situations of off-campus life. Whether this “extra” roommate is increasing your monthly utility bill or dominating couch space, you can get very irritated. It makes sense that you would feel both frustrated and confused about this situation. It is not fair that you have to absorb the costs of someone else’s intake. On the other hand, roommate spats are delicate matters because you don’t want to create tension. It is obvious that this issue is really bothering you and might even be effecting your relationship with your roommate, class work, or personal relationships.
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Categories: Coping Mechanisms · Finances · Relationships · Stress
Ah, spring is in the air and images of bikinis and beautiful sunsets replace the dull monotony of midterms. Cancun, Cabo, Panama City, wherever your destination, Spring Break seems to have been invented for the college student. It does, pose a problem, however. Whether you have been in a relationship for 3 days, 3 months, or 3 years, if you and your lover are parting ways for this week of mayhem, shit is bound to hit the fan unless you apply plenty of love block.
While there are probably less than 2 percent of lovers who have complete and unfaltering trust in their other half, the rest of us delve into spring break debauchery with unequivocal doubt. What if Michael meets that drunken freshman hottie in a plaid bikini that just can’t say no? Oh no, my girlfriend is going to the same beach as the Varsity Basketball player who bumped into her towel clad on their freshman hall! These thoughts can plague even the most savvy of beach goers.
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Categories: Alcohol · Health · Relationships · Sex · Stress
The video below is from a 1970s self-affirmation video entitled, “Free To Be… You and Me.” I thought of it the other day when I was having a conversation with one of my male friends who was talking about ”how weird it was” that our professor got teary in class when talking about the death of a friend. This comment spawned a conversation about who it was acceptable to cry in front of and what things were ”worthy” of tears. My answer is always, “It’s alright to cry!”
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Categories: Relationships · Sex · Stress
Q: Is it possible to have a long distance relationship at Emory? Because mine’s driving me crazy.
Relationships in any college situation are more difficult than they were in high school. From an academic perspective, college is so demanding that it is sometimes difficult to prioritize the maintenance of our relationships. In addition to the anxiety of school, the social pressures and stressors only make things more difficult. Meeting new people drunk on Eagle Row, or even bumping into that unexpected stranger in a towel on your hall might throw a monkey wrench into your perfect idea of a relationship.
Considering all of this, having to deal with infinite issues on campus will certainly put strains on your relationship, be it a local relationship or long-distance. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is also in college, they are definitely experiencing the same things you are. Maybe it’s nice to find comfort in that, or it might scare you shitless. The last thing you might want to picture is your high school sweetheart bumping into the point guard of the basketball team in his towel on her hall. With so many unknowns about your partner’s social experience at college, you might begin to feel insecure. (more…)
Categories: Relationships · Stress
